I hereby declare that I am no longer in the business of saving others from themselves.

To those who know me personally: this must be quite a surprise. All of my life I have been full of advice, solutions, and suggestions.  I have tried to fix you.

To those who know me professionally: I am in the self-improvement and personal growth business. Doesn’t it seem right that I should try to fix you?  The answer: no!

I have a deep and burning hunger to learn and the ability to share it, which is a gift.  It would be a travesty not to use it. I can stand in front of total strangers, connect with them, and share unabashedly the wide variety of lessons I have learned in my life.  I can do it with humor, passion, joyous energy, burning honesty, and deepest sincerity while simultaneously including those who are observing me.

If you are in proximity to me and I share my experience, you are free to like it, hate it, ignore it, disagree with it, be unmoved, be enlightened, find only a portion useful, think I’m totally crazy, or believe me to be inspiring.  Your reaction is none of my business.  I love your soul, bless you for the lessons you give me, and accept whatever decision you make on how to use what I share with you.

But whether or not you sink or swim is between you and your God. Harsh, you say?  No, it is the highest act of love I can give you.  Otherwise, in my small and very limited perception, I may believe you are sinking, when in fact, you are learning to swim.  In my seemingly philanthropic desire to help you, I may be the very cause of your drowning.

Life is a journey with God, who uses other persons, places or things as tools to educate us, give us experience and increase our wisdom.  But whether or not you learn and progress on your path is God’s business and yours, not mine. Being a tool does not make me the Master Carpenter. It seems for many years I was confused.  In trying to fix you, I was acting as if I were the Master Carpenter.

If ever you have crossed my path and I subjected you to the aforementioned blunders, I tell you from the depths of my soul that I was wrong; I apologize; I no longer will do this. Since I am human and prone to imperfection, if you observe me giving advice, solutions, suggestions, or otherwise trying to fix you, you have my permission to call me on it.

This freedom is an enormous relief from the huge burden of acting like the Master Carpenter, which I lay willingly and lovingly at the feet of God.  If that is where we find each other, then we are all the more blessed.

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